Consent, Coercion, and Control

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, your hosts Lisa, Sovereign, and Gwen unpack the real meaning of consent, how women are taught to compromise it, how coercion often masquerades as choice, and why detachment can be a radical act of protection. But first, in Tea Time, we discuss the Epstein client list and how the right wing dropped it like a hot potato, the viral “Coldplay Couple” controversy, and how public shaming culture disproportionately targets women. Then in our Mailbag, a listener writes in about confronting misogyny from their gay male friends, and we talk about how patriarchy shows up across all sexual orientations.   🎧 This episode is a deep dive into emotional self-defense, how consent is framed in culture and relationships, and why power is always the elephant in the room.   🎙️ Topics Discussed: Why consent isn’t just about yes or no — it’s about power How coercion is normalized in dating and media The Coldplay Couple and the pitfalls of online vigilante justice Surveillance culture and the myth of moral purity Misogyny in queer spaces and the politics of emotional labor   ✨ Links and Resources Mentioned:Jeffrey Epstein is splitting MAGA. Will he sink Trump and Republicans?https://thehill.com/opinion/white-house/5409084-epstein-client-list-trump-maga-fight/ What is a Lolita Girl?https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lolita_(term) Epstein had bizarre painting of Bill Clinton in dress, heels in townhousehttps://nypost.com/2019/08/14/epstein-had-bizarre-painting-of-bill-clinton-in-dress-heels-in-townhouse/ The Panama Papershttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Panama_Papers The Coldplay concert affair captivated the internet. But is it time to move on?https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2025/07/21/ceo-coldplay-concert-couple-affair-obsession/85305715007/ Cierra Ortega, booted off ‘Love Island,’ addresses racist slurshttps://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/tv/story/2025-07-10/love-island-former-contestant-responds-after-racist-post Buzzfeed’s ‘Tasty’ Slammed For Tone-Deaf Joke About ‘Love Island USA’ Contestant Chelleyhttps://www.vibe.com/news/movies-tv/buzzfeeds-slammed-love-island-usa-joke-chelley-1235085384/ Marital rape in the United Stateshttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marital_rape_in_the_United_States   📚 This Week’s Recommendation:Look Into The Art Of Detachment11 Powerful Ways To Master The Art Of Detachment To Live An Unbothered Lifehttps://www.yourtango.com/self/powerful-ways-master-art-detachment-live-unbothered-life#:~:text=Letting%20go%20doesn't%20have%20to%20be%20scary.&text=The%20art%20of%20detachment%20is,a%20person%20on%20the%20backburner.   💌 Join the Conversation:Got questions or wild stories to share? Email us at [email protected] with “The Audaci-Tea” in the subject line. Your message might be featured in a future episode.   ☕✨ Support the Show:Join our Patreon community! Sign up for free, or become a Tea VIP for exclusive perks like: Early access to episodes Voice memo mailbag access Ad-free listening Bonus video segments and behind-the-scenes blogs A private feminist community👉 https://www.patreon.com/audacitea   ▶️ Subscribe & Watch Full Episodes on YouTube:https://youtube.com/@theaudaci-teapodcast   📱 Follow Us Online:TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@the_audacitea0Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/the_audacitea_podcast   🕰️ Episode Chapters:00:00 Welcome and Tea Time!01:34 The Epstein Files and Political Accountability06:25 The Impact of Wealth and Power on Justice13:19 "Coldplay Couple" Witch Hunt Hurts Women16:28 Is Vigilante Justice Bad For Society?29:40 Introduction to Consent34:01 Entitlement and Approaching Women41:11 Commenting On Women's Clothing45:50 Pornography's Effects On Consent49:44 Historical Context of Consent and Entitlement55:18 The Right to Say No01:07:35 Blue Balls Isn't A Thing01:12:00 The Calm Abuser01:15:27 The Burden of Female Sexuality01:19:25 Men's Lack of Responsibility in Sexual Pleasure01:23:58 The Prize Mentality in